There are fools out there that believe it’s okay to openly demonstrate the deficiencies of their upbringing by telling us why a vagina makes another person deserving of their scorn and despite the reality, every one of you owes your lives to the attractiveness, vitality and strength of vaginas.
But campaigners are shouting that they want misogyny to be labelled as a hate crime.
People want freedom of speech, and why can’t a woman call a man a c*** when a man can call a woman a bitch?
Well, bitches are usually rather intelligent and the fact that people complain is freedom of speech and making misogyny a hate crime wouldn’t criminalise anyone. It would simply be a different way of classifying some existing crimes.
So if, for instance, you’re sexually attacked by someone who demonstrates apparent misogyny while doing so it will be recorded as both a sex attack and a hate crime. They already do it in Nottinghamshire, and now there are suggestions it should be rolled out universally.
But it doesn’t mean that a wolf-whistle will get you locked up. It simply implies that if you wolf-whistle someone to the point where you perform a crime, you combine some harassment, intimidation, bullying and/or pursuing, then the police report of it will have the term misogyny attached like a cherry on the top.
A fool would say that women are getting special treatment but they’re simply asking to get the equal treatment as homosexuals, people of colour, the disabled, minorities and all men on Planet Earth and not to get picked on.
You can’t help being born of colour, homosexual, spina bifida, or appended to a penis. And whether or not you were accessorised with a penis or a vagina in the womb is something you had no control over.
But maybe the most obvious hint is that we need misogyny to be acknowledged by the police and in 2018, being a woman can be compared to a disability but whether you want to call it prejudice or fear, a hatred of one half of society breeds crime and fear that everyone has to dispense with.
It creates domestic abuse, that affects 1 in 4 women. It causes rape, which occurs once every 7 minutes in the United Kingdom. It causes males to be expelled from school, disciplined at work, pulled into industrial courts for prejudice, taken to the divorce court and, all too frequently, sentenced.
And the rest of us, male and female, who aren’t involved have to compensate for it through our taxes. We have to steer around it, squandering time and money at work dealing with it.
It’s clearly a hate crime because it targets someone for the way they were born. It causes those people to be abused and disregarded and underpaid and victimised, and it’s very bad manners.
Go to any kindergarten school and you will see boys and girls who see each other as different, but equal. No-one hates anybody else except if they’ve stolen a biscuit, and then it’s only temporary.
We’re not born with bigotry, prejudice, hatred or malice but in spite of this as grown-ups, we believe it’s okay to be misogynists but if children think this sort of behaviour is beneath them, then there can be no justification for an adult doing it. Unless, of course, they’re a fool.
But if the social and criminal costs are so great, why don’t we simply put them all in jail? Probably because we’d need a prison in every town in the country but statistically, in every street, there’s someone being violated, someone who’s been abused, someone who’s been fired or underpaid or didn’t get the job, and all because they do their thinking with a genitals rather than their brains.
But of course, some of those victims are men. One in 6 are mistreated by a loved one, 12,000 a year are attacked and many more raped, and disregarded at work because of someone who views themselves as a dick-swinging alpha.
The idea of making police record misogyny as a crime is not simply to stop men from being mean. It’s to make men, women and police all understand that this kind of response is simply not on, whoever does it and whoever’s on the end of it.
Because there are lots of women who think this is simply the way the world is and some, sadly believe that for a woman to succeed she has to act like the worst kind of man.
And it is long overdue. For millennia women have been demonised by the church, state, organisations and people and those who have mastered it to attain positions of leadership are still disparaged for their looks or capabilities as a mother.
If they are pretty, they can charm you. If they are childless, they will capture you. If they have children, they simply want your money and if they have neither looks nor children then they’re presumably a witch.
In all that time, women have existed and died, birthed and nurtured, achieved and strived, in the light of public humiliation but numerous men have come to welcome that feminism which has given them supportive, financially independent partners, confident daughters, long-lived mothers and loving partners who aren’t terrified witless in bed.
The Weinstein moment made us all a little more conscious, and it’s safe to say people are definitely engaging with a difficult but important idea that sexual harassment is not about sex, it’s about power.
The behaviours we’ve seen in men arise from the idea that women should be the suppressed and docile recipients of male control and dominance.
But if sexual harassment and sexual assault are not sexual, the modifier is questionable.
It appears to reduce the austerity of the act or even reclassify it, implying that it’s not simply a type of assault but also a subcategory of sex and the media is a flirty business and we may be criminalising courtship and conflating it with predation as though flashing one’s penis at work is simply a cumbersome way of asking someone on a date.
In this world, women apparently can’t tell the difference between mutual, polite flirting and harassment, because the distinction is a blurry boundary that clueless men with good intentions have a difficult time discerning and we have to stop seeing sexual harassment and sexual assault as some kind of flattery of women gone wrong.
In fact, sexual assault has nothing to do with sex, or sexuality, or flirting, dating, or love. Rather, sexual assault is a sort of hate and men who satisfy themselves by exploiting women are getting off not on those women but on the control.
These men don’t sexually assault women because they like women but because they hate them as inferior beings and that’s misogynistic harassment and misogynistic rape, not sexual assault. These are hate crimes.
I don’t mean this in the conventional, judicial sense. Hate crimes are already problematic so how can you ask a profoundly imbalanced and systemically biased criminal justice system to hold violations of prejudice special? And men of colour are more prone to be given harsher punishments than white men for the same violations.
But if we understand that these evils are the consequence of targeted hatred, rather than mistaken lust, we can devise better solutions than the sort of treatment Harvey Weinstein is apparently getting for his problem and the way to fight hatred is not only through enforcement against specific perpetrators.
We must fight the misogyny, sexism and the systemic marginalisation of women and the excessive empowerment of men. That’s what produces the society-wide dynamic in which men believe they’re better than women and if rapists aren’t just monsters who somehow shifted from the back alley to the boardroom and, clearly, we need to see how our boardrooms and stockrooms and classrooms and family dining rooms educate, incentivize and perpetuate misogynistic hatred.
And then rather than concentrating on the sleazy circumstances of each disgrace like some romance novel with a dark twist, the media and all of us should talk about the fundamental power irregularity within each company or the culture of misogyny in a given industry.
That hatred ends up affecting all of us and whether we understand it or not, most men despise women as do most women and studies reveal both women and men have an unconscious prejudice against women.
For example, tools some experts use to gauge our unconscious relations imply that both women and men more readily associate men with certain attributes and women with negative. In fact, data implies that women hold these unconscious prejudices more than men. Which makes us all, for example, more likely to give a job interview to a man than a woman, or believe a successful man is talented while a successful woman is just lucky.
That’s because we’ve all grown up inside the rotten vessel of a society that automatically gives men excessive control and opportunity.
Even those of us who are women, and are married to men or have daughters we love, we still unconsciously or consciously absorb our social messages and norms about the innate inability of women, a dogma that courses through all of our veins, whether we intend for it to or not, just because it’s the foul air we’ve all learned to breathe.
That’s the decay at the kernel of misogynistic harassment and assault, a rot within all of us, that has nothing to do with sex or love and everything to do with hatred.
It’s scary stuff and a lot of men, particularly young men make inept advances to women. It’s easy to harass women and to empower women but to even further disparage all men is unacceptable really.
There are numerous women out there that are glad to be single and content to stay that way and wouldn’t touch a man with a bargepole and use their hand like their sexual companion and unlike a man it never gives mixed signals and never manipulates.
But touching somebody because you want to have sex with them and they won’t let you is not hatred, it’s when the man takes it further and thinks it’s his god given right to take what isn’t his, then it becomes a hate crime.
Unfortunately, hate crimes are categorised under all different headings and we need to define what those different categories mean. If a woman is chatted up, and the woman is not interested, that is not a hate crime but if she tells the man that she’s not interested and he carries on, then that’s harassment.
It’s easy for a woman to scream harassment, which usually gets upgraded to a criminal assault and the single biggest problem is about perception and the dilution of genuine incidences of sexual assault or worse.
A date rape drug Rohypnol is an incapacitating agent which, when given to another person, incapacitates the person and renders them vulnerable to a drug-facilitated sexual assault, including rape.
One of the most common types of Drug-Facilitated Sexual Assault (DFSA) is those in which a victim consumes a recreational drug such as alcohol that was given secretly. Here, the victims in these incidents have been drinking willingly which then makes them unable to make informed choices and/or give permission.
Date rape drugs are prohibited and are sometimes used to assist in a sexual attack which a person has not agreed to. The drug usually has no colour, smell, or taste, so you can’t tell if you are being drugged and the drug can make you vulnerable and disoriented and can even cause you to pass out so that you can’t consent to sex.
These drugs are extremely strong and they can affect you quite fast and without your knowledge, and alcohol makes the drug even more powerful and can cause severe health problems, even death and men who take what’s not theirs and against a person’s will is a misogynistic act.
Most men, of course, are honest and courteous towards women, it’s just a pity there’s a small minority that tends to give other men bad press. Not all men are evil and sexual harassment is not confined to just men, women perpetuate it as well.
It isn’t only men who abuse their wives, men are beaten as well by their wives but it’s harder for men to stand up in our society and say that it’s happened to them and it’s wrong.
Sexual harassment is not a hate crime, it’s a power crime and it’s classed as assault and sexual harassment should not be dragged into a hate crime category.
Nobody is born to hate but some men and women end up growing up with huge ego’s paired with a small brain and a lack of respect for another human being and an inability to accept rejection.
Sexual abuse or harassment should not be tolerated in our society, particularly in this day and age, we’re not Neanderthals and we don’t live in the 18th century, we live in a brave new world where we should have acquired more regard for one another.
If men and women are guilty of these offences, the courts should have the backbone to prosecute them to the fullest degree of the law, but everybody is entitled to a fair hearing, even though public opinion would have tried them and found them guilty.